Stories from Survivors

Your story is important. The world needs it.

These stories reveal the universal patterns of control and abuse that exist across diverse high-control environments. By sharing their experiences, survivors contribute to a growing body of knowledge that helps others understand the dynamics of undue influence and the mechanisms of manipulation.

To protect the privacy of those involved, identifying details have been removed. Use the search bar to find stories that resonate with your own journey by exploring key themes, emotions, or experiences.

Do you feel the call to hold abusive groups or persons accountable?
Jump to our whistleblower guide.


 
 

Before sharing your story…

Speaking about your experience can be incredibly empowering. That said, please consider if there may be potential negative consequences.

Is there potential harm to yourself, your loved ones, and/or your livelihood?

If so, do you have the emotional stability and the social and financial support to handle any backlash that may come from sharing your story?

Trust your gut and do what is right for you.

 
 
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There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.
— Maya Angelou
 
 

Video Statements

 

Sharing your story through video is a powerful way to use your voice and tap into your creativity. Whether you choose to remain anonymous or feel comfortable being visible, creating a video statement allows you to convey the emotional depth of your experience and connect with others on a personal level. The videos featured here showcase a range of approaches to help inspire you as you find the best way to share your own unique story.


 
 
 
 
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You need to let go of enough of your past that you can move forward. . . but keep enough that you remember who you are.
— Lisa
 
 
 

Want share your story on igotout.org?

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Share your story on #igotout platforms!

Should you choose to have your #iGotOut story shared through iGotOut.org, it will be necessary to follow these guidelines:

Do not include the names of the cult, cult leader or leaders, or other members.
Do Share what you have learned and how your life has changed since you got out.

Please note: Most people will share their stories directly through their chosen social media platforms rather than sharing on the #iGotOut.org. website or YouTube channel. Using the hashtag, #igotout, will make it easier to find other people’s stories and for others to find yours. For more relevant hashtags, click here!

 
 
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Powerful neurological integration occurs when one is able to create a coherent narrative out of confusing, traumatic, or coercive experiences.
— Dr. Daniel Seigel
 
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If you want to be public with your story, here are some things to consider:

1. Legal implications: Are there any legal risks or potential consequences associated with sharing your story, such as non-disclosure agreements, defamation claims, or other legal issues? It may be helpful to consult with a lawyer specializing in whistleblower protection or First Amendment rights.

2. Evidence and documentation: Do you have sufficient evidence, documentation, or records to support your claims? Gathering and securely storing any relevant materials can help substantiate your story and protect you in case of challenges or denials.

3. Anonymity and digital security: If you choose to remain anonymous, are you taking the necessary steps to protect your identity online, such as using secure communication channels, VPNs, or pseudonyms? Be mindful of your digital footprint and the potential for your identity to be uncovered.

4. Emotional preparedness: Telling your story can be emotionally challenging and may trigger painful memories or trauma. Consider seeking support from a therapist, counselor, or support group to help you process your emotions and maintain your mental well-being throughout the process.

5. Timing and strategy: Is now the right time to share your story, or are there strategic reasons to wait? Consider factors such as ongoing investigations, potential allies, or upcoming events that could impact the reception and impact of your story.

6. Unintended consequences: Are there any potential unintended consequences of sharing your story, such as impacts on your family, friends, or community? Consider how your actions may affect others and weigh the potential risks and benefits.

7. Amplification and media attention: Are you prepared for the potential media attention or public scrutiny that may come with sharing your story? Having a plan in place for handling interviews, public statements, and social media interactions can help you navigate the increased visibility.

Remember, the decision to become a whistleblower or share your story publicly is a deeply personal one that requires careful consideration of your unique circumstances. It's essential to prioritize your safety, well-being, and long-term interests throughout the process.

These points are not meant to be legal advice. Consult an attorney if you want to explore this route further.

 
 
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It is essential that justice be done, and it is equally vital that justice not be confused with revenge, for the two are wholly different.
— Oscar Aria
 
 
 

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